You might be an empath if

What is an empath and how do you know if you are one? Some people wear like it like a banner and others are ashamed to admit that they are because there is a vulnerability that can misconstrued as weakness. Sometimes it is a weakness. It depends on the individual and where they are in their journey.

My journey as an empath began at a very young age. I was an emotional sponge and I still am if I’m not careful. Friends, if you read this blog and relate to the traits I describe below, be sure to do your own self care. The world needs us right now AND they need us healthy.

If you have most of these traits, consider yourself an empath:

  • Emotional sponge – you take on other people’s feelings. Most of the time you don’t realize what you are doing and wonder why you are having such random feelings. They are not yours!
  • Being in large crowds exhausts you – the energy of people in masses can be exhausting. You might pick up physical symptoms of those around you. Be sure you check in with your body often and ask if it is your symptom or that of someone else.
  • People in stores mistake you for an employee and begin to ask you questions.
  • Strangers tell you their life story. It’s a common occurrence in your life because they sense that you are a caring person who listens and takes their story to heart.
  • You cry easily or are touched by simple things in life. It could be a silly commercial with cute animals or someone singing a patriotic song. Some empaths have a fear of expressing their emotions so they don’t cry but end up with knots in their throat from not expressing their emotions. Not expressing emotions can lead to physical discomfort in the body such as anxiety.
  • You attract narcissistic people into your life. Narcissists can spot an empath a mile away.
  • People take advantage of your kind and generous nature. You might end up an angry and/or a resentful person because you feel taken advantage of a lot.
  • You have weak personal boundaries with people.
  • You seem to know a person’s story before you get to know them. Most empaths are very intuitive.
  • You have a tendency to have autoimmune diseases. Some empaths have multiple autoimmune diseases.
  • If you are tuned in, you can feel your emotions and locate where they are in your body.
  • You are clairvoyant, clairsentient, and/or clairaudient.
  • Your body is very sensitive to the touch.
  • You are a kind and thoughtful person that usually goes the extra mile with people.
  • You are trustworthy.
  • You say yes to too much and have trouble saying no. You overwork, overcommit and sometimes disappoint people.
  • People value your opinions.
  • You can be a social chameleon, changing as you see fit.

Being an empath can be both an amazing experience and a curse. It depends on how you develop as a person. The most important take away I have is that setting personal boundaries should be your first priority when you realize that you are an empath. Realize that you are enough and you don’t have to give up who you are to please someone else. Set boundaries with family and friends and all that cross your path. It is not easy to do. Start small by saying no to things that don’t matter too much to you. For instance, say no to volunteering for something that will cost you precious time that you don’t have to spare. Begin considering yourself first before you commit to anyone or anything. This is not being selfish. If you don’t take care of yourself, you cannot help anyone else. I liken this advice to the instructions that flight attendants give when you are on a plane. In order to help your children or anyone around you on the plane, you must first put your own oxygen mask on. Self care is important.

If you have an experience you would like to share, I’d love to hear from you.

I would like to add a very important detail that some of you can relate to – addictions. Empaths are prone to addictions of all sorts. The sensitivity can be overwhelming at times so we develop addictions to dull the senses or distract us from dealing with our feelings. It is so important to honor your journey if you are in the midst of an addiction. Get real with yourself and be gentle and loving. Forgive yourself and forgive others. That is the path to healing.

4 Comments on “You might be an empath if

  1. Dina,
    I am also an empath! It makes me a great salesperson, but I am exhausted by it all. People open up to me and spill their life. It is very rewarding for people to give you that great trust but also again a great burden. I am sure that you know what I am talking about.
    Thank you for these wonderful writings you are doing, they are truly inspirational.
    Huggies,
    Margaret

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    • Margaret, I always knew you were an empath. You are a beautiful soul. It is a blessing and a curse when proper boundaries are not set. Even when boundaries are set, being in public can be a challenge (which seems contradictory since empaths can also be very social). Thank you for your kind words.

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