How do I admit at the age of 47 that I still listen to a bully?
She appeared about six months ago. At first she just made a comment or two about my job performance. I was giving it my all to make the new endeavor a success. Her snide remarks were quite unnerving. Why couldn’t she simply encourage me? A kind word goes a long way.
Next came the biting remarks. “You make too many mistakes. Stop while you are ahead.” Wow! Was that necessary?
She began to dig in and make comments about my appearance. “I noticed the dimples on your legs. You might want to do something about that.” She began to focus on my physical appearance. Every day it was something new. “Hey, you have age spots on your neck. You might want to try some of that skin lightening cream.”
It has taken a while to get my belly full of the bullying. It stops now!
It’s time to shut her up and show a little love. That bully is none other than myself.
The voice of the bully can be brutal. It squashes dreams and keeps us from being the best that we can be. The best way to get rid of the negative voice is to practice self-love and compassion. Even though I know this, it can be a tall order at times.
When the bully appears, take the time to understand why and let it go. Fear comes in many forms.